I am usually all smiles and easy going. Even
after being married for 15 years to a man, that I thought was my everything,
and finding out about his infidelity, I chose to decide to be his friend and
move on. Yes, I was hurt but, most of me
felt like since we got married so young and he chose to be with someone else
while he was committed to me. Then, he
must no longer be the person for me; he must not truly love me because love is
patient and kind and love is slow to anger as God teaches us. So, I decided that I could spend my life
being bitter or letting our son see how two grown-ups should be when they
decide for whatever “grown up reason”, that they must go their separate ways. I
have always listened to whatever he has to say and even when he is still rude
and disrespectful to me, I just let him continue on like a little kid having a
tantrum. However, after this week’s
lesson, I will focus more on the three principals of the NVC. I also like the 3R’s and will tell him about
them using reverse psychology. Of the two, I think the NVC principals would
help me best because, since I have someone else in my life now, my ex has
gotten worse and over the course of the last few weeks, I find myself
responding to him in loud tones as he never seems to let me speak when we are
talking about my son our, he hangs up on me.
The three principals of NVC will allow me to be slow to respond to his
negative acts in attempts to soften the conversation.
References: www.robinsharma.com
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